All the comments calling her manipulative and a liar got me worried so I wanted to counter that unhelpful narrative.
Every toddler goes through a very similar phase. It may not come out as an outright “lie” (a term that is far too laden with social baggage to have meaningful use in conversations about toddlers) but 3/4 yr olds are masterful story tellers who don’t usually have the social emotional skills to say “I made a mess and I’m a little worried I’ll get in trouble but I know I gotta let you know so you can help me clean it up and please give me grace when it comes to a learning curve.”
Any story told by a child this age has these kinds of meandering mazes. It is far more functionally appropriate to call this narrative a *confession*.
If you notice, all the important information is provided: liquid was spilled, her arm knocked it over, she doesn’t want to get in trouble. (The last one is not directly spoken but more implied with her inspired story telling)
She’s balancing a lot of emotions: the surprise of the actual event, the realization that the event might be cause for a small disturbance in the force, the need for help/assistance in dealing with the fallout and of course the uncertainty of telling all of those things to the attending adult. This child is demonstrating masterful pragmatic awareness.
In order to navigate this tricky situation successfully as a parent/caregiver you acknowledge and engage in the facts while guiding her through the desired language and actions you want her to take next time. So ignore the “lie” and address the needs/skills you are trying to teach.
In your “no one’s in trouble” voice:
“Oh man! Did you accidentally make a mess?! I make messes sometimes, too. And I know, when I make messes, it’s my job to clean them up! Do you want help cleaning it up?”
Child probably nods yes.
Commence cleaning up instructions. “Huh we keep towels over here so why don’t you grab one of those. You know, when I spill it’s because I put my drink too close to the edge. Where do you think is a safe spot for drinks?”
The narrative can go on to include revisiting appropriate steps to take when messes are made, including a rehearsal of a less creative “confession” (Mom/dad, I made a mess and I want to clean it up but I need help) the range of safe locations for beverages and where dirty laundry goes when it’s done. All this without “punishing” the child for “lying”, which would result in many missed learning opportunities as well as likely ensuring that next time she makes a mess, she’ll probably try to hide it.
The fact that this child is pretty calm is a good sign to me. I mean, she’s getting her story out *fast* but it is not in that whiney, panicked voice that is a red flag indicating to me that she does *not* have safe spaces to make mistakes. Except for the hazy details about the HOW, she’s spittin straight facts…ok she is spitting very round about facts but no story is without its meanderings at this age.
This kid is going places. She lied, outed herself, pivoted, and slipped right back into the lie as if it was nothing. She’s either going to be given an Oscar or the nuclear codes one day. Rock on little dude. Rock on.
Kids that lie all time and this fluidly need to have parents that are calling them out with punishments and explanations. My kid spilt water on a laptop the other day didn’t say and started blaming everyone else when asked even though they’re the only one in the room. I cleaned it up and explained it’s all right to spill but not hide it or lie about it. I can fix whatever you break if you tell me right away but if you wait then you really will be in trouble. And that’s how I’m doing it so far
I can’t put into words how much I love this video… Wow.. kids lololol. Ugh they are such little con artists, such cute freakin’ adorable liars. I kinda wanna believe her tho, she seems so convinced. 😂😅
Annnd that’s a good future lawyer in progress if I say so myself.
I believe her. 100%.
She is innocent.
#It was her arm, not her.
Case closed.
“Did you see it” sounds like the start of some false allegations. Lol.
How do I know *you* didn’t do it?
I love the inefficiency of a kid trying to lie.
Ah to be young. She’ll learn soon that she needs to find out what mom saw BEFORE she tries to manipulate the truth.
LOL
Aww a budding manipulative liar
Is it just me, or does she talk like Trump…?
Fourth dimension fuckers!
Watch this one… she’s trouble.
Teach this kid poker.
This is what my cat would say if it could talk
I did not spill it! I did nooooot!
It’s the “I love you” in the middle. My daughter does that all the time when she’s trying to manipulate.
Edit: unfortunately, it works more often than it should.
Translation: These are not the drones you are looking for.
Maybe she’s telling the truth and there really was an inter dimensional being causing a stir to implicate the poor child.
someone could resubtitle it as russias version of events
“i didnt invade ukraine. i just happened. i dont know how… im not to blame but did you see?”
All the comments calling her manipulative and a liar got me worried so I wanted to counter that unhelpful narrative.
Every toddler goes through a very similar phase. It may not come out as an outright “lie” (a term that is far too laden with social baggage to have meaningful use in conversations about toddlers) but 3/4 yr olds are masterful story tellers who don’t usually have the social emotional skills to say “I made a mess and I’m a little worried I’ll get in trouble but I know I gotta let you know so you can help me clean it up and please give me grace when it comes to a learning curve.”
Any story told by a child this age has these kinds of meandering mazes. It is far more functionally appropriate to call this narrative a *confession*.
If you notice, all the important information is provided: liquid was spilled, her arm knocked it over, she doesn’t want to get in trouble. (The last one is not directly spoken but more implied with her inspired story telling)
She’s balancing a lot of emotions: the surprise of the actual event, the realization that the event might be cause for a small disturbance in the force, the need for help/assistance in dealing with the fallout and of course the uncertainty of telling all of those things to the attending adult. This child is demonstrating masterful pragmatic awareness.
In order to navigate this tricky situation successfully as a parent/caregiver you acknowledge and engage in the facts while guiding her through the desired language and actions you want her to take next time. So ignore the “lie” and address the needs/skills you are trying to teach.
In your “no one’s in trouble” voice:
“Oh man! Did you accidentally make a mess?! I make messes sometimes, too. And I know, when I make messes, it’s my job to clean them up! Do you want help cleaning it up?”
Child probably nods yes.
Commence cleaning up instructions. “Huh we keep towels over here so why don’t you grab one of those. You know, when I spill it’s because I put my drink too close to the edge. Where do you think is a safe spot for drinks?”
The narrative can go on to include revisiting appropriate steps to take when messes are made, including a rehearsal of a less creative “confession” (Mom/dad, I made a mess and I want to clean it up but I need help) the range of safe locations for beverages and where dirty laundry goes when it’s done. All this without “punishing” the child for “lying”, which would result in many missed learning opportunities as well as likely ensuring that next time she makes a mess, she’ll probably try to hide it.
The fact that this child is pretty calm is a good sign to me. I mean, she’s getting her story out *fast* but it is not in that whiney, panicked voice that is a red flag indicating to me that she does *not* have safe spaces to make mistakes. Except for the hazy details about the HOW, she’s spittin straight facts…ok she is spitting very round about facts but no story is without its meanderings at this age.
How could you ever get mad at such a child?
“because I wanted to say I love you!”
She got me completely wrapped around her little finger.
They SsPILL the DuWINK.
Huh, never would have thought that a child sounds more together than Donald Trump.
Some of y’all are taking this way too seriously. It’s just funny and cute.
This kid is going places. She lied, outed herself, pivoted, and slipped right back into the lie as if it was nothing. She’s either going to be given an Oscar or the nuclear codes one day. Rock on little dude. Rock on.
Remind me: 25 years she’s a member of congress.
Kids that lie all time and this fluidly need to have parents that are calling them out with punishments and explanations. My kid spilt water on a laptop the other day didn’t say and started blaming everyone else when asked even though they’re the only one in the room. I cleaned it up and explained it’s all right to spill but not hide it or lie about it. I can fix whatever you break if you tell me right away but if you wait then you really will be in trouble. And that’s how I’m doing it so far
Your toddler gaslights better than my grandma with 50+ years experience.
I can’t put into words how much I love this video… Wow.. kids lololol. Ugh they are such little con artists, such cute freakin’ adorable liars. I kinda wanna believe her tho, she seems so convinced. 😂😅